
Last night I had one of my famous “girl’s nights” at my house. This is when my bestest girl buds come over for some food, drink and convo. I am the self-proclaimed “Sex Guru” so at some point, one or more of my gal pals will turn the subject toward sex. Such went last night. The big question was, “as a toy reviewer, who gets plenty of toys in a month, don’t I ever get SICK or TIRED of using or playing with toys????”
My answer: HELL NO!
I think my gal pals assumed that since I have the toys, I must be pulling them out EVERY time I had sex. The truth is, I have a few items that I find essential during every sexual encounter (lube, toy cleaner, bullet or mini-vibe) and the new toys we test on ‘toy review nights’ or I test them solo. Oh, there are toys that we just love and want to play with again (like this new G-Spot toy that I got - it ROCKS for use during oral sex) or my JimmyJane Little Chroma mini-vibe (this is my go-to toy for clitoral stimulation) and my favorites lubes and oral sex gels. Other than that, when new toys come, we pick one out of the box, try it and then decide where it goes:
(1) One of my two ‘under the bed’ boxes for quick grabbing
(2) My storage box in the basement - probably won’t use again
(3) Garbage pile box (sex toys that are made of jelly or other such materials must be disposed of in a special way, don’t just jut them into the trash)
Now, albeit we do not throw out much - usually it is the rare item that falls apart or doesn’t work, so most end up in the middle category. I have many, many toys and I try to take care of them the best I can, but I can not always remember what I have….perhaps I need a master list or something….
Anyway, the thing is, I like my toys. I have always, ALWAYS found toys to be an enhancement, not a replacement. Even before the whole Sex Toy Reviewer thing. I like to use them. They are great for solo time (who wants to tire out a hand or fingers when you can use a B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend); or for spicing up the foreplay and ESPECIALLY for that clitoral stimulation. Why have one finger-driven orgasm when you can have 5 with a bullet? Duh!
So, yes, toys are a part of my life and both my husband and myself love them. Do I get tired of testing toys? No. Every toy is different. Even if they are both vibes or dual actions - there will be something different (either a good or bad thing) but something different. So, it is kind of fun to see what the differences are.
As far as toys during sex go - we like to try out new things. Hey, ya never know which toy will send up the fireworks for both of you! Plus, it is a great way to start a session new and fun - instead of just jumping into bed, have a toy show for your partner - now THAT will start the ball rolling……
So, no, I don’t get tired of toys. No one is MAKING us use them. No one is saying, “Mikayla you HAVE to use your vibrator tonight.” If we do not want to use toys, we don’t use them. If we want to, we do. However, lubes and mini-vibes are a standard in our bedroom - and I am happy to have them. Sex is great - sex is awesome - sex is great and awesome with and without toys. The key is, knowing why you are using the toys, and I certainly know.